I had a lovely walk to work today. I took the penultimate coffee from my boss's stash. Since there was only one left, I figured I should reassure him by leaving a note to let him know I'll buy more coffee. On my way home this evening I stopped by the Elk's and became a member. I am now ready to bear every Elk member's contempt should I do anything bad. This is not something I'm worried about because I already handled contempt for doing the right thing, for not reacting under provocation, and for not doing the wrong thing. And if I do anything bad, my own contempt for myself is more damaging than other people's contempt.
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One of the philosophies of tai chi was explained to me in November: instead of fighting a force with the same force, make sure you’re not in the way. So, if you have something coming towards you in an attack, dodge it or let it go past you. This same philosophy works in regular life conflicts. If someone is yelling at you, sending insults your way, excluding you from their social gatherings, giving you dirty looks or doing anything that is meant to hurt you, just let it come and go past you, not inflicting any pain on you as you let it pass. As she said this, I realized that is exactly what I have done in my life from the time I was very, very little. It’s so easy to do! I thank both my parents for teaching me this through example.
There are countless examples in my life of people’s failure to hurt me. Sometimes, it’s because I don’t even notice it until someone points it out to me that they had bad intentions. Other times, I’m doing the tai chi thing where I just get out of the way. And then other times, I am just super forgiving. Some people refuse to believe that I could be so naïve or forgiving, but I just continue my wrath of peace because either I don’t see it to begin with, or I know their harmful actions are coming from another place that has nothing to do with me. I so wish that more people could do this so that they can stop feeling hurt and start feeling *PEACE*.
I've seen people get hurt and as a result, they become alcoholics, drug addicts, wife abusers, criminals, you name it. I think a lot of harm that is done to people, property, animals, the environment - is caused by people who have been hurt themselves. I don't think any little toddler wants to grow up to become a drug addict, an animal abuser or a criminal. I think people only become this way as a result of being hurt in some way. Or, if they don't become a liability in some way as a result of being hurt, I think many people lose that spark that I think all human beings are born with. So again, here's to hoping that people have enough support in their lives to remain the strong and capable humans they were born to be. Because for me, it is NOT 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger'. Instead, it is 'what supports you that makes you stronger'. And a lot of this support can come from within you.
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I'll be travelling to Yellowknife and Alberta mid Feb. Let me know if there are any gigs there and then.
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My dad and brother went back home. My apartment feels very empty now without them. Empty. Thank goodness for my girlfriends: I'd be feeling so lonely without them.
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Cotton pickin' flight was cancelled. They're not here until tomorrow.
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All that matters right now: dad and brother are arriving tomorrow for the holidays. :o)
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Dad and brother are arriving on Monday so today I filled up my fridge with groceries. Rocky will appreciate having my brother around because I'm not much of a dog person.
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Should I pay 2000 for a 1980 GMC Jimmy hillbilly that's been converted to a truck?
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All the eggs were eaten. Speaking of eating: I'm taking care of someone's frogs while they're gone. I have to feed them on wednesdays and saturdays. While sitting down to supper last night with Jenny, I looked at the frogs and said "oh, it's wednesday eh? I have to eat the frogs". Haha! Talk about a freudian slip. (I tried frog legs once at a buffet and they were delicious)
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Just found out that I'll be going to Yellowknife in February. I haven't been there since 1999. I wonder who is still there? I wonder if the guy who popped my cherry still lives there. He's one of the greatest guys I ever met. Wherever he is, I hope he is very happy.
There is a potluck lunch at the office tomorrow so I made devilled eggs. There be dem devils in those devilish eggs. Seriously - just a bit of mayonaise, salt and paprika.
Why do I smile when Baila Me starts to play?
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Monday January 13, 2014
I had a lovely walk to work today. I took the penultimate coffee from my boss's stash. Since there was only one left, I figured I should reassure him by leaving a note to let him know I'll buy more coffee. On my way home this evening I stopped by the Elk's and became a member. I am now ready to bear every Elk member's contempt should I do anything bad. This is not something I'm worried about because I already handled contempt for doing the right thing, for not reacting under provocation, and for not doing the wrong thing. And if I do anything bad, my own contempt for myself is more damaging than other people's contempt.
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Sunday January 12, 2014
One of the philosophies of tai chi was explained to me in November: instead of fighting a force with the same force, make sure you’re not in the way. So, if you have something coming towards you in an attack, dodge it or let it go past you. This same philosophy works in regular life conflicts. If someone is yelling at you, sending insults your way, excluding you from their social gatherings, giving you dirty looks or doing anything that is meant to hurt you, just let it come and go past you, not inflicting any pain on you as you let it pass. As she said this, I realized that is exactly what I have done in my life from the time I was very, very little. It’s so easy to do! I thank both my parents for teaching me this through example.
There are countless examples in my life of people’s failure to hurt me. Sometimes, it’s because I don’t even notice it until someone points it out to me that they had bad intentions. Other times, I’m doing the tai chi thing where I just get out of the way. And then other times, I am just super forgiving. Some people refuse to believe that I could be so naïve or forgiving, but I just continue my wrath of peace because either I don’t see it to begin with, or I know their harmful actions are coming from another place that has nothing to do with me. I so wish that more people could do this so that they can stop feeling hurt and start feeling *PEACE*.
I've seen people get hurt and as a result, they become alcoholics, drug addicts, wife abusers, criminals, you name it. I think a lot of harm that is done to people, property, animals, the environment - is caused by people who have been hurt themselves. I don't think any little toddler wants to grow up to become a drug addict, an animal abuser or a criminal. I think people only become this way as a result of being hurt in some way. Or, if they don't become a liability in some way as a result of being hurt, I think many people lose that spark that I think all human beings are born with. So again, here's to hoping that people have enough support in their lives to remain the strong and capable humans they were born to be. Because for me, it is NOT 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger'. Instead, it is 'what supports you that makes you stronger'. And a lot of this support can come from within you.
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Saturday January 11, 2014
I'll be travelling to Yellowknife and Alberta mid Feb. Let me know if there are any gigs there and then.
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Friday January 10, 2014
My dad and brother went back home. My apartment feels very empty now without them. Empty. Thank goodness for my girlfriends: I'd be feeling so lonely without them.
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Monday December 23, 2013
Cotton pickin' flight was cancelled. They're not here until tomorrow.
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Sunday December 22, 2013
All that matters right now: dad and brother are arriving tomorrow for the holidays. :o)
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Saturday December 21, 2013
Dad and brother are arriving on Monday so today I filled up my fridge with groceries. Rocky will appreciate having my brother around because I'm not much of a dog person.
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Friday December 20, 2013
Should I pay 2000 for a 1980 GMC Jimmy hillbilly that's been converted to a truck?
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Thursday December 19, 2013
All the eggs were eaten. Speaking of eating: I'm taking care of someone's frogs while they're gone. I have to feed them on wednesdays and saturdays. While sitting down to supper last night with Jenny, I looked at the frogs and said "oh, it's wednesday eh? I have to eat the frogs". Haha! Talk about a freudian slip. (I tried frog legs once at a buffet and they were delicious)
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Wednesday December 18, 2013
Just found out that I'll be going to Yellowknife in February. I haven't been there since 1999. I wonder who is still there? I wonder if the guy who popped my cherry still lives there. He's one of the greatest guys I ever met. Wherever he is, I hope he is very happy.
There is a potluck lunch at the office tomorrow so I made devilled eggs. There be dem devils in those devilish eggs. Seriously - just a bit of mayonaise, salt and paprika.
Why do I smile when Baila Me starts to play?
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