I look at her
& I say that's my daughter
I listen to her sing without fear, confidently shaking her stick figure hips
& I say that's my friggin daughter
I see myself in her
but with a more involved hand
one of greater privilege than my parents could have with me ( because from what I know of them they never borrowed or took a dime after they left the house and both grew up incredibly poor as I cannot say the same).
I always imagine the world of each person is one where they are standing on the shoulders of their parents
I see the overall correlation of those with more being able to have taller and broader shoulders to carry their offspring than those without.
I always believed that if you switched two babies at birth, that of a poor person and that of a rich person though the poor person maybe a savant it doesn't matter as 9 times out of 10 nurture over nature triumphs in my brain
connections matter
money matters
economic inequality matters
but parental involvement and the true love they have for that child matters the most
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Replenish
fill
refill
restore
replace
provision
stock
save
top off
Pliable
flexible
bendable
movable
moldable
malleable
yielding
soft
changeable
susceptible
impressionable
Strategy
plan
plot
scheme
blueprint
artifice ingenuity or cleverness
approach
Rest
break
sleep
repose
breather
time-out
lull
pause
downtime
take a break
recess
take a breather
hold up
crash
catch one's breath
recharge one's batteries
quiet
peaceful
relaxing
recharging
restorative
rejuvinate
Replenish
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The gift of the morning and self reflection
is potent and productive
if you eat the frog first
cut off the rest of the world dis-tractors like the internet and focus on what needs to get done as the older you get the less time you have to make the journey so it’s bigger than the destination.
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Love is an infinite #
to a man like me who has seen the end of every relationship except the ones I'm in now
& though I know there's a possibility
that we could be forever
My eyelids droop
from the long days of work lately and I think of how "I love you" is such an easy thing to say
and another thing to live
"Iron sharpens iron" as we all regardless of intimacy want to be connected and I believe to those that help us learn because to see your future in your child's eyes, inspiration out of a friend's accomplishments, or a lover's appreciation or in your friend's child's twinkle is a gift from grandfather to son to daughter and back again as I can see one day her in an audience looking at her daughter or granddaughter thinking about the principles and quirkiness of her dad and her grandfather's lasting impressions after they are gone
We truly don't die as long as we live in others and because of them I can live on but for the remainder of my life I have to also live a little for myself so that I can continue to be whole
and not spent.
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Joy with my daughter
compounded infinity
When with my girlfriend
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Chloe
She gets a devilish grin
now
When picking her nose &
like Darth Vader telling me, Luke Skywalker
“I Am Your Father. . .Thomas”
as she tries to light-saber me
me in slow mo with her loogie dangling
"Wet Willies Revenge!"
I exclaim as I attempt to plunge my snot covered index finger into her ear
& she buckles in the glee of wrestling her father
like a boy
that mom’s disapprove of
the way that girl’s get a rush out of being
a tomboy on the
down low despite & in spite of what
Mom thinks
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Burgeon, Progress, Sprout, Reinvent, Nurture
II. Health
Bright Eyed, Bushy-Tailed, Trim, Nutritious, Energizing, Lively, Lustly
III. Sex, "The Poor Man's Polo" Clifford Odets. Desire, Foursome, Menage a Trois, Aphrodisiac, Pleasure, Desire
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The way we fuck. . .
If Aliens in Outer Space were to be interviewed about what they saw while we did it.
They'd probably say that it looked like we were trying to kill each other.
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I'll turn 47 in a couple hours and I'm excited not sad about getting older
Yet there are days when the line between hope and regret are indivisible
as I hear artists like Michael whose gone and Bill Burr whose still around, both visceral and still killing it yet one of them is dead.
So all these posts about people dying recently whether it be Prince, a great guy I sold books with, a friend of a friend, or a colleague Nancy lately have got me reading books like “5, Where Will You Be in Five Years?”, coincidentally listening to what makes Story Corp’s Format so compelling is because it’s basically
the last 40 minutes of you the speaker’s life
but in a sound booth
being told to the one person it’s hardest to tell that story too
but who you want to tell the most with a seasoned journalist assisting in the removing of your ribs metaphorically but with the expertise of an uninterested party who’s aware of going for the jugular to satisfy the hunger that we the audience have convinced ourselves we need in that moment.
So the book says I’ve lived;
47 years
X 365 days
=17,155 days and that the average person lives 27,375 days
-17,155 days lived
=10,260 days left before I die
So I finally call a friend named Javier in Italy who I haven't talked to in 20 years.
He was my best friend for a good 5 formative years between when I was 16-21.
And though we talk for a NY minute and he promises to call me back
but alas you can't put a gun to people's head
as maybe some people just want to be alone
or even more blunt maybe they just didn't care for you
the same way you did for them at the same point in your lives
and the weight you have carried for them is a release so when you finally let that off your shoulders and CREATE MORE SPACE FOR THOSE THAT LOVE YOU NOW
to have room to pat you on the back, hug and support you
=10,260 days left before I die
Less than 10,000 days to spend with Chloe and less than 10,000 days to try to make up to Jade for not being a good father
Less than 10,000 days to be with my love
Less than 10,000 days till I meet my maker
But looked at another way I’ve got 10,000 days more to embrace life
10,000 days and counting to getting older with a smile and the sun on my face
10,000 days to thank certain people in my past
10,000 days to meet new interesting people in my future
More days to do something for the first time
to take the scenic route
to be like a child again
to stop working earlier
to take more naps without the guilt of a younger man
to keep moving more not less even if only sometimes in my dreams
to write a love letter to a significant other
to turn off the TV, get off the computers and talk more to those that are important to me
to cook an outstanding meal and eat it with those that mean the most to me
to sleep
to have sex
to laugh
to cry
to read more books
to read all the Harvey Swados books while sharing more of my life with his granddaughter
to write more poems all with the
Remembering we only pass this way once
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So she says to me next week do you want to go to a topless bar and I'm like kaching! Then she says you know I did say a tapas bar right?!
The way my brother is describing his internet dating choices is like he's on the Price is Right comparing women like he's Bob Barker describing his options in the Match.com showcase showdown!
Go to a Catholic Confession Booth as it is the same as getting in a cab except you don't have to pay!
So when are they going to have a "Not Sure" choice for if you have children on Internet Dating?
https://twitter.com/TomEvansComedy
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I Look at Her
I look at her & I say that's my daughter I listen to her sing without fear, confidently shaking her stick figure hips & I say that's my friggin daughter I see myself in her but with a more involved hand one of greater privilege than my parents could have with me ( because from what I know of them they never borrowed or took a dime after they left the house and both grew up incredibly poor as I cannot say the same). I always imagine the world of each person is one where they are standing on the shoulders of their parents I see the overall correlation of those with more being able to have taller and broader shoulders to carry their offspring than those without. I always believed that if you switched two babies at birth, that of a poor person and that of a rich person though the poor person maybe a savant it doesn't matter as 9 times out of 10 nurture over nature triumphs in my brain connections matter money matters economic inequality matters but parental involvement and the true love they have for that child matters the most
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Words and Variances of Them to Show you What I'm Feeling Lately
Replenish fill refill restore replace provision stock save top off
Pliable flexible bendable movable moldable malleable yielding soft changeable susceptible impressionable
Strategy plan plot scheme blueprint artifice ingenuity or cleverness approach
Rest break sleep repose breather time-out lull pause downtime take a break recess take a breather hold up crash catch one's breath recharge one's batteries quiet peaceful relaxing recharging restorative rejuvinate Replenish
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The gift of the morning and self reflection
The gift of the morning and self reflection is potent and productive if you eat the frog first cut off the rest of the world dis-tractors like the internet and focus on what needs to get done as the older you get the less time you have to make the journey so it’s bigger than the destination.
Reply
Love is an infinite #
Love is an infinite # to a man like me who has seen the end of every relationship except the ones I'm in now & though I know there's a possibility that we could be forever My eyelids droop from the long days of work lately and I think of how "I love you" is such an easy thing to say and another thing to live "Iron sharpens iron" as we all regardless of intimacy want to be connected and I believe to those that help us learn because to see your future in your child's eyes, inspiration out of a friend's accomplishments, or a lover's appreciation or in your friend's child's twinkle is a gift from grandfather to son to daughter and back again as I can see one day her in an audience looking at her daughter or granddaughter thinking about the principles and quirkiness of her dad and her grandfather's lasting impressions after they are gone We truly don't die as long as we live in others and because of them I can live on but for the remainder of my life I have to also live a little for myself so that I can continue to be whole and not spent.
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Joy with my daughter compounded infinity When with my girlfriend
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Chloe She gets a devilish grin now When picking her nose & like Darth Vader telling me, Luke Skywalker “I Am Your Father. . .Thomas” as she tries to light-saber me me in slow mo with her loogie dangling "Wet Willies Revenge!" I exclaim as I attempt to plunge my snot covered index finger into her ear & she buckles in the glee of wrestling her father like a boy that mom’s disapprove of the way that girl’s get a rush out of being a tomboy on the down low despite & in spite of what Mom thinks
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I. Growth
Burgeon, Progress, Sprout, Reinvent, Nurture
II. Health Bright Eyed, Bushy-Tailed, Trim, Nutritious, Energizing, Lively, Lustly
III. Sex, "The Poor Man's Polo" Clifford Odets. Desire, Foursome, Menage a Trois, Aphrodisiac, Pleasure, Desire
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Alien Sex
The way we fuck. . . If Aliens in Outer Space were to be interviewed about what they saw while we did it. They'd probably say that it looked like we were trying to kill each other.
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I'll turn 47 in a couple hours and I'm excited not sad about getting older Yet there are days when the line between hope and regret are indivisible as I hear artists like Michael whose gone and Bill Burr whose still around, both visceral and still killing it yet one of them is dead. So all these posts about people dying recently whether it be Prince, a great guy I sold books with, a friend of a friend, or a colleague Nancy lately have got me reading books like “5, Where Will You Be in Five Years?”, coincidentally listening to what makes Story Corp’s Format so compelling is because it’s basically the last 40 minutes of you the speaker’s life but in a sound booth being told to the one person it’s hardest to tell that story too but who you want to tell the most with a seasoned journalist assisting in the removing of your ribs metaphorically but with the expertise of an uninterested party who’s aware of going for the jugular to satisfy the hunger that we the audience have convinced ourselves we need in that moment. So the book says I’ve lived; 47 years X 365 days =17,155 days and that the average person lives 27,375 days -17,155 days lived =10,260 days left before I die So I finally call a friend named Javier in Italy who I haven't talked to in 20 years. He was my best friend for a good 5 formative years between when I was 16-21. And though we talk for a NY minute and he promises to call me back but alas you can't put a gun to people's head as maybe some people just want to be alone or even more blunt maybe they just didn't care for you the same way you did for them at the same point in your lives and the weight you have carried for them is a release so when you finally let that off your shoulders and CREATE MORE SPACE FOR THOSE THAT LOVE YOU NOW to have room to pat you on the back, hug and support you =10,260 days left before I die Less than 10,000 days to spend with Chloe and less than 10,000 days to try to make up to Jade for not being a good father Less than 10,000 days to be with my love Less than 10,000 days till I meet my maker But looked at another way I’ve got 10,000 days more to embrace life 10,000 days and counting to getting older with a smile and the sun on my face 10,000 days to thank certain people in my past 10,000 days to meet new interesting people in my future More days to do something for the first time to take the scenic route to be like a child again to stop working earlier to take more naps without the guilt of a younger man to keep moving more not less even if only sometimes in my dreams to write a love letter to a significant other to turn off the TV, get off the computers and talk more to those that are important to me to cook an outstanding meal and eat it with those that mean the most to me to sleep to have sex to laugh to cry to read more books to read all the Harvey Swados books while sharing more of my life with his granddaughter to write more poems all with the Remembering we only pass this way once
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So she says to me next week do you want to go to a topless bar and I'm like kaching! Then she says you know I did say a tapas bar right?!
The way my brother is describing his internet dating choices is like he's on the Price is Right comparing women like he's Bob Barker describing his options in the Match.com showcase showdown!
Go to a Catholic Confession Booth as it is the same as getting in a cab except you don't have to pay!
So when are they going to have a "Not Sure" choice for if you have children on Internet Dating?
https://twitter.com/TomEvansComedy
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