Blog for Civilized Tears

How to Handle Christmas Drama

2011-12-01T17:08:59-05:00

Christmas is supposed to be a wonderful holiday but so often it's one of family feuds and disagreements.   Here are a few tips I've written for myself to help me get through this season.  1- Accept people for who they are. That includes what you like and what you don't like about them. They are who they are and they own that , not you.  2- Don't try to change people. It doesn't work so let it go and don't exhaust yourself dwelling on it.  3- Be grateful for the things they do even if they are the tiniest things. It's better to be grateful for the small things than waste energy complaining about the things you feel they've done wrong or don't do.  4- Don't buy into anyone else's drama. You can tell them you don't want to discuss their drama and then leave them with that to think about. It's not impolite, you're just stating your needs. If they get angry because you don't want to hear their gossip or drama, then that's too bad and that's their issue and it's okay because there is nothing you can do about the way they react - which leads me to point 5 & 6.  5- You can not change how people react but you can change how you react to people.  6 - It's okay to disagree.   7- Peace is not submission. Peace is the outcome of your choice on how to handle and react to life's situations.  8- You don't have to like someone to love them.  9 - It's an amazing fact, but changing your attitude to people's funk or people's moods is extremely powerful social tool. To confront anger head on is sometimes the worst reaction to take.By being light and even humorous ( not sarcastic) can actually dissipate the anger in an environment and turn a bad situation into a good one. People find it easier to be open about their faults and issues in a humorous air. This doesn't mean you have to be cracking jokes all the time of course, but finding the time as to when to be light is a good social skill.  10 - Be kind to others and give them a break. Be empathetic and know that they are trying to deal with life the best and the only way they know how to, just as you are.  Everyone suffers and struggles. No matter what brave or sour face they put on it's a fact that they are dealing with some major things internally. So be kind and remember this and you will find that it makes things a little easier to cope with and understand when the shit hits the fan !  
Have a wonderful Christmas, Hanukkah, or Seasonal Celebration of your choice.
 Much Love
Tim 
xoxo

Fighting my way out of the Corner

2011-11-30T20:31:06-05:00

Today was my first day back in Gym after the illness - Jay had me do 8 rounds and no more. I feel good though - a little tired but that's to be expected - rescheduled fight scenes for early January. This last 2 weeks has been mind altering.Plans have not gone according to plan, mind you they never do - well for me at least. Is it time to give up my addiction to planning?I've had time to contemplate and consider my role and just allowing myself to bob along on the storm waves instead of fighting them. It's an interesting change.
 Now sitting down and writing a new song which I hope to perform on Ustream this weekend.
 www.ustream.tv/channel/timbennett

Fighting my way out of the Corner

2011-11-30T20:26:27-05:00

At Last Angel Wings for Black Rain music video

2011-11-28T23:22:38-05:00

At last here are the finished wings for Black Rain - Angel scene - ( photo makes wings look asymmetrical ) I've left the wings a little sparse - as I like the rawness. I may add some smaller feathers to coat bones. Have to see how it looks on camera.

Feathers from Hong Kong and mainland China.

Bones made from lightweight flexi-plumbing piping.
http://wp.me/p20bRD-u

Hugs, Tim x

back from the flu & new show

2011-11-27T22:33:16-05:00

After a week of crappy flu, I'm up and about and preparing for the new Ustream show.
Thanks for everyone who's popped by and 'Liked' the
page.
Also I'll be back in the gym this week for training.
We had to reschedule the video fight scenes due to sickness.
On that note - a huge congratulations to trainerJay Deas & Deontay Wilder who just won his 20th consecutive heavyweight fight. He's now 20 wins and 0 defeats with an incredible 20 KOs !

Hugs, Tim
x

Getting a neck massage from an English Cat

2011-11-24T23:59:42-05:00

Today I needed a little TLC
http://youtu.be/ChdXrP8MyxU
Thank you for cats !

TV from the middle of Nowhere

2011-11-24T00:54:03-05:00

Ustream has been a welcome addition to my music life. Gigging from my living room in the middle of nowhere, USA, has been a revelation.
During the last 8 months I've been learning to become a boxer for my latest music video and have been dedicated to the point of not venturing too far from the gym.
Ustream TV has allowed me to perform and reach my fans in Europe, UK, Down Under and here in USA.
I hope to gig again soon once I've got the music video done and I've been beaten up enough in the ring to last a lifetime.

to see my recent "Live & Unplugged" show check out:
http://www.ustream.tv/channel/timbennett
Hugs,
Tim
x

Thanksgiving

2011-11-23T17:53:52-05:00

As a Brit I did not grow up with this holiday, but I've realised that it's a perfect time to reflect on the many things I have reason to be immensely grateful for.

I'd like to wish everyone a very "Happy Thanksgiving! "

Hugs,
Tim
x

Fighting Sunday / Ustream TV

2011-11-19T01:00:07-05:00

today was the last day of boxing training before the fight scenes for Black Rain music video on Sunday.
I wouldn't say I'm completely confident - my technique is still a million miles away from where I feel it should be - but I know I've done my best over these last few months and I'll give it all I've got on camera.
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Thanks for joining me on Ustream TV tonight.
The lovely and talented Princess Bambi Monroe made a guest appearance and sang the duet - "Right from the Start' with me.
I also sang unplugged versions of songs from Miseducated album and other less well known tracks.
To see a recorded version of the show please go to:
http://www.ustream.tv/channel/timbennett

Off to bed now.Have a long day tomorrow.
Hugs,
Tim
x

Ustream - thanks for joining me !

2011-11-17T17:55:20-05:00

Thanks for joining me on Ustream today.
I really enjoyed playing unplugged tracks off my new album.
Come join me on Ustream
www.ustream.tv/channel/timbennett

hugs ,
Tim x