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Making Peace with my "social networking life"

Well, it sort of got under my skin last night - I was trying to fall asleep-trying being the operative word, as I often lay in bed for a spell thinking a thousand thoughts, at times wondering what it's like for those people who simply hit the pillow and their out, oh the bliss. . . so, I was laying there thinking about how I spend time on FB. How I go on throughout the day to see what my "friends" are doing, did, have to say - or just maybe someone has even sent me a message or commented on something - yeah, what a moment that always is. Then I thought about these "friends" - the "friends" that you don't (or rarely) talk to in person; the friends that you actually haven't met yet, or you have met but haven't had a "real" conversation with but feel like you sort of know them because you've sent a couple messages and saw a few of their photos; and then there's the friends that you reconnected with from years gone by, but have only shared an unconvincing "hello" since adding them.

If it weren't for my music career and the need to share and connect with people far beyond my daily bumping intos, I dare say I would run away from any sort of social networking, which I believe might even help me live more "in the moment" as they say.

So, how do I make peace with this? How do I find a middle ground? How do I live in the present while connecting with my past? How do I not make an ass of myself when I see someone whom I feel like I know from FB (or have a crush on - you know what I'm talking about), give them a hug, then awkwardly stumble away from it realizing that we've never really had a conversation yet and I actually know nothing about who this person really is (oh, and now they're wondering why I just touched them)?

Is it all bad - is it affecting my day to day positively or negatively? Or am I just thinking about it too much... probably all the above, though my close friends (even if they agree with me) would say "Stop the madness: give the hamster on the wheel up top his well deserved coffee breaks and go throw a frisbee. You're going to drive yourself nuts!" Maybe I should just write a song ;) ... or, maybe the answer is Blogging - letting the thoughts out to share and hear what others have to say.

So let's give this a try - let's see if it brings sanity and balance.

tammy Johnson-Dunnett
tammy Johnson-Dunnett  (over 3 years ago)

I have had the same thoughts about FB and social networking and it really hit home when my son wanted to start a page. First he is only 9 so not old enough by FB regulations, but it had me thinking as I told him all the people that matter to him and those who make him matter know how to get ahold of him and know where he is ... and invest in him. FB is great for reconnecting but, you are right, there is a lost art of staying truly connected. I have just recently decreased my friend list to mostly family and close friends so I can be honest about life on there. Perhaps the answer is two accounts - one for the music and one for those that matter. Now go write that song!

p.s. I have started a blog as a requirement for class requirement and I too think that will be a better way to generate discussion

Cheers, Tammy

tammy Johnson-Dunnett
tammy Johnson-Dunnett  (over 3 years ago)

I have had the same thoughts about FB and social networking and it really hit home when my son wanted to start a page. First he is only 9 so not old enough by FB regulations, but it had me thinking as I told him all the people that matter to him and those who make him matter know how to get ahold of him and know where he is ... and invest in him. FB is great for reconnecting but, you are right, there is a lost art of staying truly connected. I have just recently decreased my friend list to mostly family and close friends so I can be honest about life on there. Perhaps the answer is two accounts - one for the music and one for those that matter. Now go write that song!

p.s. I have started a blog as a requirement for class requirement and I too think that will be a better way to generate discussion

Cheers, Tammy

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